Today I wanted to kick things off by talking about something we all feel on a regular basis that everyone tells us we shouldn’t: anger. It has developed such a negative connotation that even the word itself sounds dirty. But why? Why are we always taking this essential part of our emotional make up and turning it into something so nasty? I don’t know about all of you, but sometimes I just want to be pissed off, and that is perfectly OK.
Not only is it OK, but we should be helping others to express their anger as well instead of telling them to get rid of it.
I’m going to give you an example of something that’s been happening to me. I recently found out that I can’t have children. Your first instinct when I tell you this is to feel sympathy and start thinking of things to say to make me feel better, right? Well it’s the same for everyone in my life, too.
I have one thing to say to that: KNOCK IT OFF! Seriously.
Telling somebody why they shouldn’t feel angry or telling them steps they need to take to get over it is probably just going to do the exact opposite. Well, you’re probably asking what on Earth am I supposed to do then?
Be angry with them! Go buy a sledgehammer and then go to the dollar store and get a bunch of cheap trinkets and smash the crap out of them with the angry person. Encourage them to scream at you!
I can tell you from personal experience that smashing something and letting that person give in to their anger is going to help them a lot more than telling them, “Miracles happen everyday. It’s just not your time yet.” Or my favorite, “Everything will work out in the long run.”
please don’t be that person.
But also, get a venus fly trap like the one in the picture here.